How To ‘Shift‘ YOUR Emotions
“To be honest with one's emotions is a thousand times better than
to silent about what one doesn't feel”— Aporva Kala
We’ve talked about shifting emotions at home, in the classroom, in relationships… but what about when it’s not about anyone else?
What about those days when the chaos isn’t around you, but inside you?
Like those mornings when you wake up and feel low, and you’re not even sure why. Or those afternoons where your fuse is so short, even the sound of someone chewing makes you want to scream. (Just me?)
Yeah. Let’s talk about that.
Because if we’re being honest, sometimes the hardest person to extend patience, understanding, and kindness to… is ourselves.
Life gets loud, responsibilities pile up, and sometimes it’s hard to tell if we’re just overstimulated or actually emotionally unraveling.
And then comes the guilt:
“I should be handling this better.”
“Other people have it worse.”
“Why can’t I just snap out of it?”
Pause. Breathe.
You don’t need to “snap out of it.” You need space—to feel, process, and shift without judgment.
So often we wait until we’re completely overwhelmed before we even realize we’re off. But shifting starts way before the meltdown.
Instead of trying to fix your feelings immediately, try noticing them first.
Ask yourself:
What’s really going on here?
Did something happen that I haven’t fully acknowledged?
Is this stress? Exhaustion? Am I just hungry?
Being curious with yourself is way more helpful than being critical.
Talk to yourself like you would a friend.
Like seriously.
If your friend came to you and said, “I just feel off today” would you say:
“Get over it.”
“You’re being dramatic.”
“You’re always like this.”
Of course not. You’d probably say, “That’s okay. You don’t have to figure it all out right now. Want some tea?”
So why do we speak to ourselves so harshly?
Try treating yourself like someone you love.
When you feel heavy, tired, overwhelmed—respond with care, not shame. You don’t have to force a full 180.
Shifting doesn’t mean you have to go from rage monster to Zen queen in 3 minutes. That’s unrealistic and honestly kind of annoying.
What is realistic? Just shifting a little.
Think of your emotions like a car stuck in the mud. You don’t need to go 60mph—just nudge the wheels a little, gently, patiently. Eventually, you’ll get traction.
5 (Quick) Q-Tips to Shift Your Emotions
1. Name it to tame it.
Say what you're feeling out loud or jot it down. Giving it language helps shrink the overwhelm.
2. Get moving—gently.
Go for a walk, stretch, dance it out. Movement helps emotions flow through your body.
3. Breathe on purpose.
Try a simple 4-4-4: Inhale 4 counts, hold 4, exhale 4. Do it three times. Reset. Repeat as needed.
4. Interrupt the loop.
If your thoughts are spiraling, do something unexpected—drink cold water, change your location, even switch tasks. Break the cycle.
5. Let something out
Journal. Voice-note a friend. Cry (yes, cry). Bottled-up emotions don’t magically go away—they just get louder later.
Shifting your emotions doesn’t mean you’ll never have rough days. It just means you’re learning to ride the wave instead of being swept under it.
And that? That’s something to be proud of.
You’re doing it. Slowly. Gently. Honestly.
And hey, if no one’s told you lately—you’re allowed to take up emotional space. You’re allowed to not be okay and still be growing.
GET YOUR FEELINGS BUNDLE NOW!
